Save yourself the drama, avoid the energy vampires.
Do you ever get into a habit of venting?
It feels real nice to be able to let it all out and release some pent up energy and feelings, right? But how much is too much and at what point do you feel like you’re just spiraling - being totally unproductive?
Personally, I don’t mind a quick vent every once in a while - but I set a timer on it because I don’t want to:
Waste my time by being unintentional
Waste someone else’s time with my problems that don’t concern them
Deplete my energy sources by ruminating about something that would be better addressed with either problem solving mindset or just letting it go.
(and yes, I’ll even set a timer now if someone else is venting to me… because respectfully - while I love and appreciate the trust bestowed upon me by those who choose to confide in me, life is short - and it can’t be wasted b!tching and mo@ning about something when we can instead be enjoying the greater joys in life.)
The situation that brought this up is one of many, from a well meaning friend who likes to commiserate all too frequently or a nosy somebody who likes to get into everyone’s business and then blab about it to people who have no business knowing about your personal life…
If you’re like me and you like to ride the waves, fly under the radar, and enjoy life in peace and quiet but some how find yourself getting wrapped up in situations that you want no part of then consider these things the next time something or somebody really lights you up, gets your feathers in a ruffle, or sucks you into an energy vortex.
If you are the one who is expending energy ask yourself: Is the problem within my control?
If YES - IDENTIFY the problem, FIX the problem, and MOVE ON
If NO - let it go.
If you are getting sucked into a vortex belonging to someone else that is going to deplete your energy reserves ask yourself: What’s my role and how does it affect me?
If you are directly affected by an issue at hand and play a role in it - IDENTIFY the problem, FIX the problem, and move on
If you are not directly affected by an issue and play no direct role in it - let it go.
If the vortex keeps coming back to you and it does not resolve or positively contribute to your concerns - but you can’t avoid it, what can you do?
Remove yourself from the situation quickly - for example: “please excuse me, I’m going to have explosive diarrhea”
Set direct boundaries - for example: “my apologies, this sounds like you’re in a jam but I’m unable to provide you the attention you may need”
Deflect or redirect - for example: “I don’t want to talk about that” or “oh wait, I forgot to ask you, how was that thing you were so excited about the other day?”
What does it mean to LET IT GO?! Well, friends - it means to:
Remove ourselves from the plight because we don’t need excess negative energy in our lives!
Take ownership of our thoughts and feelings so that we can manage and problem solve for the situations in life that are within our control.
Set boundaries and prevent energy vampires from sucking up our time and energy.
Protect our peace, because as rowdy as our life, family, or friends can be - having peace and quiet is so very important in helping our minds and our bodies feel less stress and less anxiety. It helps us live with intention and allows us to have a deeper appreciation for the happiness and peace we experience in our lives.
